Yesterday, we discussed about the fundamentals of happiness and worry and the fact that they are pretty much the same for all of us.
If such is the case, no matter how big your source of happiness may be, you’re not the only one who has experienced this. Likewise no matter how big your source of worry may be, you’re not the only one who has experienced this.
In the vast history of mankind, do you think there is anything new you can experience which people before you haven’t experienced already? Do you think your grief is the biggest one the world has ever seen?
What’s important and to be kept in mind is, no matter how big the grief you think you have, you’re not alone. There is definitely someone who has already experienced it in similar magnitude.
Where we fail and hence get burdened to the point of self-surrender is that at the moments of grief we think we are alone and get all kinds of suicidal thoughts and tendencies. Major reason for this is because we believe we have no one to speak with, that we have got no one to share our feelings, no one to vent our heart out without judgment. And this is where we tend to think we are alone.
And that is the major problem. The truth is, we’re not. We’re not alone.
When all of us are going through similar problems, troubles and worries, why should we be alone while facing our own? Insofar as we have people around us to say what we want to, say. I’m sure the tale of failure you have to tell won’t be very different from the listener’s. If you don’t have someone to hear it, try me.
Irrespective of whether you know me or not, I am open to hearing what you have to say without judging. I can maybe share my thoughts and ideas if you want, if you don’t I can just hear you so you feel better. If you have any grief or concern which is consuming you too much and you want to say it out loud and you think none of your friends, family or colleagues are in a position to understand what you have to say, I offer myself as a respite. Say it, feel better and get back to doing what matters.
Why do I say this? For two reasons. First, I am a person who has failed umpteen times in life in a multitude of directions, so I get connected to a lot of failures. Second, I see myself as an emphatic, non-judgmental human being towards the points, opinions and situations of others.
If you think you’re alone in any of your miseries, forget it. You’re not. And if you want to be proved otherwise, all you need to do, is send me a message!